Tue. Mar 2nd, 2021

Bullying At Work: When Is It Time To Leave Your Job?

Bullying At Work: When Is It Time To Leave Your Job?

If someone at your office is causing you enough stress that it is impacting your life but it doesn’t meet your company’s or legal definition of harassment, it may be time to cut your losses and leave.

First, consult with a labor attorney to learn your rights in your workplace before taking a step like leaving your job — especially if you are considering leaving due to being treated unfairly.

If your employer or coworker has made your life miserable but not to the point where it qualifies as harassment, it may be time to find another job. Signs that it is time to go include experiencing increased symptoms of depression and/or anxiety. Depression and anxiety can manifest through feelings of not wanting to get out of bed in the morning,

You may be feeling like you can’t afford to leave your job right now, especially if the job market is not very promising. However, consider how many sleepless nights you’ve had as a result of enduring this person’s behavior. Consider how many times you have snapped at family or friends because you were exhausted by the time you got home.

Even if you think you can’t afford to leave your job, you may not be able to afford to stay there either. Bullying and harassment at work increase your level of chronic stress and increases your chances of developing cardiovascular disease.

If you are being treated unfairly at work, you may find that it has manifested itself in physical symptoms. Since you’ve had interactions with this person, are you experiencing headaches or stomachaches? Have you been to the doctor and you are told that there is no known origin of your health issue? It is possible that it is due to stress.

If you’ve followed your company’s protocol regarding reporting harassment claims and your employer has not taken any action, your experiences do not meet the criteria for the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) for harassment, and you have consulted with an attorney and have found that you don’t have a case for harassment, consider whether staying in this job is healthy for you and the people who love you.

While yes, it is not fair that you have to be the one to leave, sometimes it is not worth staying at a job that causes you chronic stress and health issues. And sometimes people make life miserable enough at a job where it’s not reportable behavior, but still makes you dread being at work.

During interviews, when you are asked why you left your previous job, You don’t need to give details. That information is personal and doesn’t need to be shared. You are in control of how much you divulge. If you are asked why you left your last job and have a gap of unemployment, something as simple as, “It was a difficult decision to leave the company,” and then turn the conversation towards what you find appealing about the company with whom you are having the interview. You are still being truthful, while also setting boundaries with your private information.

When you are interviewing with a possible employer, ask them about company culture, policies, and level of open communication between employer and employees. When asked for a list of references, you may feel that you don’t want to list anyone from your previous employer. If you are asked why you didn’t provide a reference for your previous job, you can say that although you found the work interesting and rewarding, your experience there was not ideal. It’s being honest without giving too much information.

It is possible to go on to find an employer and coworkers that engage in mutual respect and kindness. Sometimes change causes anxiety, but it can cause you more anxiety to stay in a job where you dread going to work every day.

Published at Mon, 22 Feb 2021 12:56:00 +0000

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